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Should I Tell My Child’s School I’m Getting a Divorce?

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Going through a divorce is not something that many people are willing to share with just anyone, especially early in the process. A relationship you thought would last the rest of your life is ending and you just want to get it over with and move on with your life. However, if you have kids, the divorce is going to have a big impact on their lives as well, and if they’re school-age children, it is something that could affect their school life.

In such cases, a divorcing couple may want to inform their children’s school about their divorce so that they know to keep an eye out for signs that the divorce is impacting the children negatively. This may be something that the kids try to hide from their parents but that they have a difficult time hiding from their teachers and schoolmates.

Why Should You Tell Your Child’s School You’re Getting a Divorce?

One of the toughest things about getting a divorce is all the people you must tell. To a minor extent, it’s like reliving your divorce over and over again. So, it’s natural to want to limit the number of times you have to go through that. Still, there are times when you just have to grit your teeth and bear it. In many instances, one of those times is when you let your children’s school know that you and your spouse are divorcing.

While you may think you can avoid announcing your divorce to your child’s school, there are often valid reasons to let them know about the pending change in your marital status. The following are a couple of reasons why you should tell your child’s school you’re getting divorced:

  • Emergency Contacts – Depending on your and your spouse’s custody status, you may need to change who is allowed to pick up your child at school and who should be listed on your child's emergency contacts list.
  • Unusual Behavior – Divorce can be hard on children. They may react very negatively to finding out you and your spouse are ending your marriage. Their feelings could result in them acting out or becoming withdrawn. Their grades could suffer, or they could lose interest in extracurricular activities that used to mean the world to them. And you may not know about any of this because they hide their true feelings when they’re around you. That’s why it’s important to let the school know so that they can be on the lookout for this type of behavior and be prepared to properly deal with it. That will of course involve informing you, possibly informing your spouse, and perhaps having the child speak with the guidance counselor about the issue if you and your spouse approve.

If you decide to tell your children’s school that you’re getting a divorce, be sure to tell your children first. You don’t want your kids to accidentally find out you’re getting divorced from someone at school.

Speak with Our Experienced Divorce & Child Custody Attorneys About Your Situation Today

There are no easy answers when it comes to divorce and child custody issues. However, there are certain things you can’t let slide, especially when it comes to your children. Doing what’s best for your kids is something that everyone involved in the divorce and child custody process should have in common, including you, your ex, your attorneys, and the court.

Our legal team at Rech Law, P.C. always prioritizes protecting your and your children’s legal rights and doing what’s in the best interest of your kids and you. For more than a decade, our divorce and child custody attorneys have put in the work to earn our law firm’s place as one of the premiere family law firms in Charlotte and throughout North Carolina.

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